How to Fight with HONOUR

All of us need to know how to fight with HONOUR. Learn how you can start doing it today.

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Verse on HONOUR

Philippians 2:2-4 The Message Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.

Thoughts on How to fight with HONOUR

When I started counselling couples, one of the first activities I had them do was to set up ground rules for fighting. If it was premarital counselling and the couple wasn’t living together the rules were a little airy-fairy. If the couple was in trouble they’d come back with rules, “Only slam the door once when you’re running away from the argument.

It didn’t take me long to develop this tool to give them. I’ve developed it further over time and encourage people to use it with whoever they need to confront about something. This works great to start any difficult conversation.

For couples I now recommend they dance their discussions. Either one can suggest a dance. Neither one can ever deny. Hold each other close, sway to some beat and don’t try to step on each others toes.

For non-married relationships we have tips to how to fight with HONOUR

Tips to How To Fight With HONOUR

Hone in on the topic at hand.

Speak to the situation “This is what you

did/said; this is why I disagree/it upset me.”

Only speak words of life.

Cut out the sarcasm, condemnation and shame.

Name calling and labels are never to be returned.

Resorting to name calling and labels is the same as placing curses on people. Don’t do it to them, even if they started it.

Operate in the present.

Avoid saying, “You always” and “You never”. Both are untrue and are used to simply cause pain. If you’re physically present with the person, look at them in the eye and don’t turn your back to them.

Understand the other person.

Listen to what they are saying. Reflect back what you think you hear and see. When they agreed you hear them, continue on.

Resolve the argument.

It’s OK to disagree. Allow them the right to hold their own opinion. Don’t go to bed angry. Don’t bring the argument up with others to rally support or curry pity; continue to honour the person. Remember it’s your job to choose to forgive and choose to bless.

Can I pray for you?

Holy Spirit thank you that you’ll give us the words to say whenever we need them. Thank you Jesus you’ll give us your love when we need more. Thank you Father you give us wisdom when we ask. Please be with those who are watching this because they need to confront someone about something. Help them to speak truth in love. Amen.

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4 Tips to stop the worry

Worry is only possible when we don’t trust God to be good and in a good mood. But how do you stop it when worry controls you? Learn how to stop the worry today.

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Verse on Worry

Mathew 6:25-26 The Message “If you decide for God, living a life of God-worship, it follows that you don’t fuss about what’s on the table at mealtimes or whether the clothes in your closet are in fashion. There is far more to your life than the food you put in your stomach, more to your outer appearance than the clothes you hang on your body. Look at the birds, free and unfettered, not tied down to a job description, careless in the care of God. And you count far more to him than birds.

Thoughts on worry and Christians

I’ve met a few Christians who admit they worry. I’ve met so many more that call worrying prayer and wonder why their prayers don’t get answered. You have a good Father who loves you and I have tips to help you to stop the worry today.

4 Tips to stop the worry

1. Agree with the fact God cares for you.

1 Peter 5:7 (NLT) Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.

2. Live out of your relationship.

12 times in Matthew 6 Jesus used a term for God that was rarely used in Hebrew Scriptures - He called him Father.

3. Pray about everything.

Philippians 4:6-7 (NLT) Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

Don’t try to stop worrying. How can you stop thinking about something by thinking about not thinking about it? All you end up doing is putting condemnation on yourself when you start to worry. Instead, learn to take those worries and turn them into fervent, effective prayers.

Make it a habit to think about what you think about. When you find yourself thinking about things you worry or fear, turn it over to praying about the truth about God and His promises for you. And keep your worries for your prayer time. If you find yourself worried or fearful in the day, put it off until your prayer time. You can train yourself to put off those thoughts until later. You can even tell them, “Not now.” If you find you can’t put those worries off, start your prayer time then and there.

4. Choose to be thankful.

Gratitude is the attitude that changes worries into promises. -Trevorism

Yes, they knew God, but they wouldn’t worship him as God or even give him thanks. And they began to think up foolish ideas of what God was like. As a result, their minds became dark and confused. Romans 1:21 (New Living Translation)

Can I pray?

Heavenly Father, I thank you we can trust you. I thank you when we trust you we have peace. I pray all of us can feel like we’re walking with you in the garden in the cool of the day. I pray we’ll respond to you your care, live out of who you say we are, pray about everything with thanksgiving. Amen

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Welcome to Live LIGHT Friends

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You were created to walk with God in the garden in the cool of the day. Sin came into the world and you bore the consequences. Jesus came to took you place and offered you his yoke that is easy and his burden that is light. You’re a child of God creation longs to be revealed. You are a living light, will you live LIGHT?

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4 Tips on confrontation

Confrontation - Are you one of the few who like to confront or are you like most people who do what they can to stay at peace with everyone? Today I have tips if someone confronts you or if you have to confront someone else.

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Verse

Matthew 7 1-5 The Message “Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging. It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbour’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt? It’s this whole traveling road-show mentality all over again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your part. Wipe that ugly sneer off your own face, and you might be fit to offer a washcloth to your neighbour.

Thoughts on Confrontation

When I was younger, I thought confrontation was a good word. I’d run to any challenge. I’d face any comer. That’s changed since my heart attack. But the good news is, I learned how to speak the truth in love that’s what I’m going to share with you today.

4 Tips on Confrontation

1. When your challenged, it might be ok to ignore. Nehemiah wouldn’t be taken away from his work at rebuilding the wall. (Nehemiah 6:2-3) Is the situation ignorable?
2. If you can’t avoid the challenge - look for the gold in the person. What does God love about them? It changes you from wanting to defend yourself to wanting to hear God’s thoughts about what’s happening. Remember, a soft answer turns away wrath. (Proverbs 15:1)
3. If you need to confront someone - When you need to confront realize your not in the right place if your going to enjoy putting someone in their place. Take the time to get in the right place. Figure out if they are willing to listen - drop seeds, set standards, give them the time to come back to you.
4. In either situation - protect your peace. Remember to forgive and bless.

Can I pray?

Heavenly Father, if we need to talk to someone about something help us to do it in love. Help us to look out for the interest of others. Help us to speak in love. Give us boldness to speak the truth.

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